Just a few, short years ago, I didn’t have a care in the world. I could get on a plane and go wherever I wanted – with just one bag. I could justify not doing groceries for a week so I could buy clothes. If I was too lazy to cook, I drove down to McDonald's. It was all about me.
And then, that same ‘me’ got married, bought a house, had a baby, got another dog…
WHOSE LIFE IS THIS, ANYWAY?
While I was pregnant, a girl I worked with said to me, “Aren’t you afraid of losing your ‘cool’ factor?". What? Who says that?! Those words cut me deep: I was so happy to have my baby, but I never thought twice about being labeled a mother.
I struggled with who I was going to become and with my preconceived notions of what a mother was. Could I be cool and a mom? Could I be relevant and a mom? Could I wear stilettos and be a mom? I mean, when I thought of my own mother, I didn’t think she was cool - she was just mom. But you know what about my mom?
* She was younger than I am now when she had me, she had to have been smokin’ hot
* She had a career while raising me, my brother and sister
* She was pretty fashionable (although, now, she owns and wears mom jeans)
* My mom is intelligent
Why do people think that being a mom, including many moms-to-be, means being boring and bland? Is it the media? Is it the people around us that don’t have children and the comments they make? Is it our insecurities?
Being a mom is hard work. In fact, it’s the hardest and most important job I’ve ever had in my entire life: I’m in charge of the development of another human being, responsible for the complete care of another individual! I have to create a world where a precious, little one can be free to grow into his own person. AGH! The pressure!
With all that being said, you know what? I haven’t lost my cool factor! I am me and I'm awesome, because now, on top of all the other things I can do and have done, I’m a mom, too! MOM’S RULE!